this christmas is going to be different for our family... the first christmas the children will have without thir mom (my sister-in-law)... So we are focusing it on them more. And despite her being gone, her daughter tells me yesterday "I want to get mommy something. And then in summer we'll bring it to her." (to the grave). She picked out two pretty fake flowers and a vase, and the boy picked out a lovely desert flower, and a pot.