Well I was wrong about him being so gentle over night. Her anal fin is in shreds and the one side I can see at this point has a few scales missing.
I am trying a technique suggested, and am floating a second male in a cup in the tank. Seeing if he will make the main main get territorial and blow a nest. I will be removing the 2nd male in a few minutes. If this fails, and I do not see signs of any change in the breeding I will try another technique of placing a second female in the tank (in a cup) to make the first female "Jealous" see what happens.
If these fail I may consider removing them to recondition, and move on to my second prepared pair.
Now here is a question that I can't remember the answer to. Is there such a thing as the female being too small? I have two small females that are still fairly young say 4-5 months, they have had breeding bars since being next to any male, and are in fact eggy. Could a male say half again or so their size embrace them?