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Old 04-11-2012, 03:45 PM   #1 
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Unhappy Advice for a transexual betta's mommy?

Hey guys,

So as most of you know, I got my fish Rosie about a month ago. "She" was labeled as a female, but as she's started to grow, her fins have been getting longer and I think she is going to turn out to be a he.

For some reason, I'm having a REALLY hard time with this. I mean, when I got her, it was just me and her, two girlfriends living together. I would talk to her like she was a girl and I just saw her as a FEMALE. But now it seems that she has actually decided to become male ... For some reason this upsets me. I love her no matter what and she will always be my first fish friend, but I can't help but feel like the Rosie I bonded with is dying
I'm not really sure what to do right now. Has anyone else had a similar experience with a gender-bending betta? Any advice?
Do I have to rename and bond all over again?

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Old 04-11-2012, 03:48 PM   #2 
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He's still the same fish, the love should be the same with longer fins! He really didn't change into something else after all.
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:50 PM   #3 
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I know that, but it's sort of hard to let my aspirations for a cute little girl go.
I wish it would have been more obvious ...
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:53 PM   #4 
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does she have a white dot under her belly? if so yes should could be, does her. did you ever put her near a male and she'll have bars that go up and down? beard stick out her gills? a pic with her closer would help
not all females are short finned:

that was my girl's bidding photo, she passed away in a month, and she got beat up by a male for jumping over a divider:

^^^^that was the last pic i got of her
also if she is a male. dosen't mean she is transsexual she was just a very young male. also how long you had her? that would help

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Old 04-11-2012, 03:54 PM   #5 
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Hey guys,

So as most of you know, I got my fish Rosie about a month ago. "She" was labeled as a female, but as she's started to grow, her fins have been getting longer and I think she is going to turn out to be a he.

For some reason, I'm having a REALLY hard time with this. I mean, when I got her, it was just me and her, two girlfriends living together. I would talk to her like she was a girl and I just saw her as a FEMALE. But now it seems that she has actually decided to become male ... For some reason this upsets me. I love her no matter what and she will always be my first fish friend, but I can't help but feel like the Rosie I bonded with is dying
I'm not really sure what to do right now. Has anyone else had a similar experience with a gender-bending betta? Any advice?
Do I have to rename and bond all over again?

-MadameDesu
I've never had a gender-bending betta before but there is one thing I know, renaming?its up to you-maybe just take her name now and revamp it.But bonding again?No, just because rosie might be a boy doesn't change her personality or how much you love her, if you find out that rosie is a he, will her personality change?If you find out rosie is a he, will you love her any less?I don't think so, but I'll tell you one thing, you're not loosing her, you're finding her all over again, I hope I helped :)
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:55 PM   #6 
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She has an egg spot, and her beard doesn't stick out her gills.
But her fins just keep getting longer and longer.
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:56 PM   #7 
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Might still be a girl then.
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:58 PM   #8 
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I've never had a gender-bending betta before but there is one thing I know, renaming?its up to you-maybe just take her name now and revamp it.But bonding again?No, just because rosie might be a boy doesn't change her personality or how much you love her, if you find out that rosie is a he, will her personality change?If you find out rosie is a he, will you love her any less?I don't think so, but I'll tell you one thing, you're not loosing her, you're finding her all over again, I hope I helped :)
Awww ... that's actually really beautiful.
If she does turn out to be a he, I'll just go with Rosario!
I do love him/her, no matter what! It's just hard to shift mindsets, I guess.
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i had a fry i raised from a month old baby. i called it a he more often than not, because it felt like it'd grow into a boy to me.

then, at 3 months old, i finally found out my little trooper, was a girl. instead of being upset, i was excited! it was a fun twist! you bonded with Rosie. it might help if you kept his name as Rosie(even though it's girlie). really, Rosie's still the same fish, just threw you a twist.
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Old 04-11-2012, 03:59 PM   #10 
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How long until their fins are fully grown?
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