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post #1 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-24-2017, 08:21 PM Thread Starter
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I'm not sure what to call this because I'm not sure what to say.

I'll start off with this: I have so many tanks that five are (were) on the ground. Cleaning them was getting hard and school had started, so I neglected them... I took Nimbus and Gizmo out of the 10 on the ground to move to another tank, and Nimbus died of shock (the 10 didn't have a heater... :()... I left Gizmo floating in the 20 because it had a heater... mistake.

I've become lazy the past few months. There's no denying it. I'm going to say it now and take the lashing I deserved: Some of my tanks have gone almost two months without a water change. I know. I'm terrible. It hurts me, almost to the point of physical pain, and I can't take it anymore.

I'm going to take a break from the forums. Not very long, as I'm sure you will want to see the new imports. Probably around two weeks... I need to literally kick my rear in gear. I will be downsizing, but not selling, my fish. As they pass, they will not be replaced. No more new fish (excluding the imports).

I want to do what's best for my fish.

If means sacrificing my free time, so be it.

I wanted to tell you guys what's been going on, why I haven't been active.

I wanted to apologize to all the fish of mine who didn't live past 8 months.

I wanted to apologize to you, the wonderful forum community, for making my fish suffer.

I'm sorry.....

The Males~
Lucifer, Gabriel, Titan, King, Finnegan, Fin-again & Ricky.
Lucifer & Gabriel are my only non-rescues...

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post #2 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-24-2017, 08:44 PM
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You can freely admit that youíve done wrong and that you wish to do better. Youíre sacrificing youíre spare time to correct yourself. You my friend, are a outstanding person and honestly, more people should be like you. good job and I hope you get through this hard time.

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post #3 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-24-2017, 09:27 PM
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Awww it's alright. I know how it feels. I took a long break from this website and from bettas. I had many empty tanks after my Sorority fell apart. =(

I have lost so many fish from being overwhelmed with so many tanks. I used to have 8 tanks and now down to 4 main ones. I realized the smaller ones needed more care and being so, I didn't have time for my 2.6 gallons. I gave three of my tanks to my friends and the other one is at work where my girl, Shark is getting taken care of by not only me, but the others that feed her. I even made a schedule for her.

Take care of yourself and I hope too hear from you in the future! <3 and I agree with KaderTheAnt!

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Everyone screws up sometimes and everyone gets overwhelmed. The important part is you recognize you've been slacking and you know you need to downsize and work harder for the sake of your fish. You certainly don't deserve a lashing since you're working to fix everything. Taking a break from the forum will definitely be helpful. I think most people do it from time to time. Heck, I'm rarely ever on here anymore.

You got this!
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((((hugs)))) sorry to hear that. I am feeling similarly overwhelmed with my hectic schedule and my overly cluttered apartment, and I only have one betta. Take care of yourself.
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post #6 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-25-2017, 12:32 AM
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@Tree Awwwww, Tree...you've been wonderfully dear and kind since m return to this site. You're a good person, and a good fish-mom. Even good mom's make mistakes, and highschool is both tiring, and eats up a lot of time.

It's alright. Take your time, and return to us once you've found a way to balance your education, your hobby, and your free time. We'll be here waiting!^^
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If you're slacking on water changes you might need a better system for doing them. Here's a few things to consider...

Are you trying to do water changes on your tanks on the same day? If so, spread the work out. Do two tanks one day, two tanks the next, etc. Putting a huge workload into a smal time frame is a great way to lose motivation. A saying I keep in my mind always: "start small, go far". Little efforts accumulate into big results, as long as those little efforts are consistent.

How do you do water changes, and how big are your tanks? If you're just scooping the water out, or using a gravel vacuum, then you need a faster, easier way to maintain tanks than that. When using a gasoline transfer pump started getting to difficult for maintaining all my tanks, I switched to a 400gph pond pump. Water transfer is so rapid that it takes 3 minutes give or take to do a complete 50% change on one of my 10 gallon tanks. This obviously won't help you if you have tons of small tanks, and if that's the case then I'd tell you to sell your small tanks and upsize to larger, divided tanks, because they take way less effort to maintain.

This is the pump I bought to do water changes. I highly recommend it:


(If you do decide to buy a pump, always check the pump's maximum lift height, or otherwise called it's H-Max. This represents how much power the pump has for pushing water upwards. If the H-Max is to low, you won't be able to pump water back into your tank. The above pump has a 7 foot h-max, so it's great unless you've got tanks sitting on shelves at above 7 feet for some odd reason).
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Everyone makes mistakes. Highschool is tough enough as it is without added responsibilities. You know where you went wrong, and you're going to fix it. I have a lot of respect for you for that. I hope you're able to get everything together!
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post #9 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-25-2017, 07:43 AM
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We've all been there. You know your limits and are trying to fix it - that's most important.

Hope you sort everything out and come up with a schedule that suits you . . . And your bettas.
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Everyone has experienced some form of stress, grief, unforeseeable circumstances. But we're here for you. Take all the time you need. :)
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