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post #23591 of 24319 (permalink) Old 05-01-2016, 10:18 AM
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It's the end of the semester. And I'm just so done. My students are driving me up a wall, certain professors are stressing me out to no end, and I'm just tired.

A lot of my students are just never happy. On the one hand, I have the crew complaining that I'm overbearing and send too many e-mails about assignments. But I send out frequent reminders and students still don't get things in on time and force me to give 0's. E-mails take time. I would love to invest the time I spend trying to keep lines of communication between me and my students open in something else. But when there are still assignments missing, I feel like the right thing to do is send out that last reminder in hopes that at least one more student will submit something.

But on the other hand, I have students who are constantly asking for more. It's not enough that I end all e-mails with an invitation to e-mail me with questions are concerns regarding the course. They want in person review sessions for the final. Except this is an online class. I don't have an office on campus. And even if I did, I have 60 students and if I offer it to one, I'd have to extend the offer to them all. Even if I had an office, I couldn't accommodate a review session for all of them. When a student asks me about the study guide and I tell them where they can find the information they need, I still get complaints that I'm not doing enough.

I have students e-mailing me drafts of assignments and then, after I send back the draft with all my corrections, I get a response reading "Well... What would my grade be if I didn't make any of those changes?" If you don't want to make the effort to improve your work, why bother wasting my time asking for feedback?

It's just the most frustrating thing. There is literally nothing I can do to make them happy.

Meanwhile, the professor I'm working on this class with took on a research assistant for a digital database project he's working on this semester. I was drafted to help, because the work wasn't getting done. I don't do coding. I hate it. I'm not good at it. I'm not qualified for this project. But somehow I was assigned to be this other student's glorified babysitter. Five days before the deadline, I sent my professor an e-mail saying that this other student wasn't working on the project. I get "It's fine, don't worry. It's fine."

Thursday, the night before it was supposed to be presented at a conference, I get an panicked e-mail from said professor about how nothing's been done. So I was up until around 1:00 am working on it. Was the student who was supposed to be doing the project doing anything? Nope! So it didn't get done. I did what I could so it would look more complete at the conference, and left it at that. Last night, I get an e-mail from this other person "Well, we missed our deadline." What? No. He was the research assistant. He was the one presenting at the conference. I was there to provide some support, but this was not my project and not my deadline. I put up more than half of the pages that were done in time for the conference. I stayed up the night before trying to salvage the situation. Don't assign me any of the blame for this.

Meanwhile, my thesis advisor is suddenly looking for my attention. While I was writing the paper, she barely spoke to me. She was never the one to reach out, I had to send multiple e-mails to get her to acknowledge me, and when we did have meetings she was always late. But now that the paper's done, she's suddenly taking an interest in me? It's stupid, but this is also majorly stressing me out, because I just don't know what to do with this. I don't trust her. We didn't have a great relationship. I just don't know what she wants from me now. Is it an ego thing, because I won awards for my thesis? Or maybe she genuinely does care, and I'm just misreading awkwardness as insincerity? I just have no clue what her intentions are and it's making me very nervous.

And the complaining students, research assistant's missed deadline, and now my thesis advisor's weird desire to have some kind of relationship is all just feeding my anxiety about professors in general. I don't work well with professors. I had a really bad experience with one, and now I have a really hard time trusting them. Even professors I really, really do like, I waver on. Like if an e-mail goes unanswered, I'll get really insecure, wonder if I did something to make them angry, and feel like they've turned on me and lost interest. I constantly feel like I have to be perfect, and the moment I struggle with something, and I'm suddenly less than the model student every professor wants to have, the professors I've worked with and developed relationships with are going to lose interest, drop me, and move on to something better. Hence staying up trying to salvage another student's project.

Even the professor who was the second reader for my thesis makes me uneasy sometimes. I adore her. She's been great, she actually makes the effort to reach out to me when she hears about things that she thinks might interest me, she came to see me present my thesis, and she's one of the very few professors who I would say that I do trust most of the time. But I sent her an e-mail a while ago, and now I'm waiting for a reply. And the silence from her is terrifying me, and I can't stop myself from going over our communications, wondering if I said something wrong and managed to make her hate me.

So now these different situations are just bringing all these anxieties front and center and I feel like I'm going insane.

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post #23592 of 24319 (permalink) Old 05-02-2016, 02:56 PM
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Sigh...if there are any other nurses/vets/techs etc on this forum they'll probably know what I'm talking about...

Just had a client come into the clinic with a suspected sick animal. They literally refused everything we could do to find out what exactly is wrong with their dog because they didn't want to pay for it. Veterinary care is expensive I get it, but do not bring your animal to your vet, refuse diagnostic testing and then turn around and call us idiots. It's not our fault or problem if you refuse the very services you come in for. We aren't mind readers, we can't always just tell what's wrong with your animal. Also please have respect for the amount of education we had to receive to be here. If we weren't needed then there wouldn't be vets! I just feel so disrespected sometimes when clients act like I'm some average joe on the street. I may not know everything but I sure did earn my degree!!

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@AngesRadieux reasons like this are why I never could pursue being a teacher. I am a history major and so everyone would always ask me if teaching was the next step. Hell no, I really have no patience for people, especially students who try to pull the "oh well what would I get without changing" type of stuff so like... yeeah. I wish you luck

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@Euro Thanks. I'm a history major, too. My current plan is applying for PhD programs and eventually (hopefully) being a professor. I think it'll be better if I ever make it to that point, because then I can set more firm policies. For now, since I'm just a TA I feel like I have to accommodate everyone so the main professor doesn't get a ton of e-mails whining about me. It just also frustrates me that people are starting to whine now. After the midterm, I told them to e-mail me if they wanted to know what they got wrong. Maybe 5 out of 60 did. For the third assignment, I offered to read drafts and give feedback if they got them to me a few days before the due date. Again, only a handful did. And all of a sudden, now that the class is almost over, they suddenly want to talk to me. I guess it's standard, but it annoys me. And then I have the ones on the other end of the spectrum who are annoyed by my attempts to reach out, so it just feels like I can't win no matter what I do. Either I'm overbearing and obnoxious, or I'm not doing enough and students need more attention. At this point, I'm kind of like "What do you want from me?! I'm a human, too!"

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Ugggh I hate useless fish buyers Ive got some fish on hold for someone who was meant to come last week but "forgot"(didnt even let me know until I asked if they still wanted the fish...) now they are meant to come today but they havent shown up... Im half tempted to remind them but I dont think I should have to go out of my way for these people. Turning up at a certain place at a certain time is a very easy skill... and if they cant manage that then maybe they shouldnt have my fish

The last week I had another annoying one, "I'll come tomorrow" "can I actually come today?" "I dont want to get lost, can you drop it off?" "ok, on my way now" "sure you cant drop it off?" "Coming tomorrow".... seriously wth....at least she actually did come

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I can sympathise Trilobite. It's rare that when a buyer comes to pick-up fish from me, that they are on time. It's so disrespectful. Like my time is not as valuable as theirs and I have nothing better to do than sit and wait for them.

Gumtree is the worst. My mum has put some household items up for sale, and between the ridiculous lowball offers (some guy wanted to do a trade for electrical parts), and the tyre kickers, I'll be glad when it's all sold.

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I hate useless fish buyers Ive got some fish on hold for someone who was meant to come last week but "forgot"
My LFS will only hold a fish for 24 hours, without a 50% deposit, and then they hold it for 7 days only on the 8th day if you have not contacted them, you forfeit the deposit and the fish is for sale. Same thing for orders 50% up front, and 7 days pay the balance and collect the fish, If you do not the deposit is not refundable and the fish is for sale.
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Yesterday my mom looked at me and said, maybe you should go outside and get some sun. I just looked at her. I have very pale skin, and going outside to get sun means I'm going to get a really, really bad sunburn. My mom on the other hand, is tan. I mean I'm not saying I'm going to any tanning bed (heck no) but I just wish I could've gotten some of my moms color. And I also wish that people would stop commenting about my skin color. We can't all be perfectly tan or have perfect skin.

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I can sympathise Trilobite. It's rare that when a buyer comes to pick-up fish from me, that they are on time. It's so disrespectful. Like my time is not as valuable as theirs and I have nothing better to do than sit and wait for them.

Gumtree is the worst. My mum has put some household items up for sale, and between the ridiculous lowball offers (some guy wanted to do a trade for electrical parts), and the tyre kickers, I'll be glad when it's all sold.

Stop being so tight people!
Oh yeah Gumtree sucks so much! So many tight asses hiding on there.
People just suck. They just have no respect for anyone else. Customers are the one thing I dont miss when I was working in retail... pretty much everyday there would be a person come in asking what sweet discount I can give them...um no, thats the best way to get fired. They just couldnt understand that I cant make it cheaper or "sneak another fish into the bag" and would keep asking right up until the sale has been completed

My person finally came but I have a sneaking suspicion that they are going to put the girls in with boys...even though I told them that it will be a disaster...but you know, everyones an expert on bettas

Nick, thats not a bad idea, I should probably start looking into stricter rules... A lot of people are dido here, so I have to hold it until they are back in town and when they forget Im stuck with the fish for another week or so until they come back to town... so a few consequences would definitely help them stop forgetting

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Yesterday my mom looked at me and said, maybe you should go outside and get some sun. I just looked at her. I have very pale skin, and going outside to get sun means I'm going to get a really, really bad sunburn. My mom on the other hand, is tan. I mean I'm not saying I'm going to any tanning bed (heck no) but I just wish I could've gotten some of my moms color. And I also wish that people would stop commenting about my skin color. We can't all be perfectly tan or have perfect skin.
Im a pasty as well, whenever I forget sunblock I regret it lol but my sister was lucky and inherited skin that tans easily

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