People--especially women--should realize that it's not okay to go up to a random person and ask if they're pregnant. I went to Starbucks yesterday and was waiting for my drink, perfectly content to mind my own business. And then a random woman comes up to me and asks "When's the baby due?" Excuse me? I'm not pregnant. When I said so, her response was "Oh, well your top just really looks like a maternity top." Really? First I look like a cow, and now my sense of style sucks, too? Are we really going to keep digging this hole deeper?
I picked up my drink, went to my car and started crying. And then ended up throwing out most of my drink later because I didn't even want it anymore. And then I ended up needing to go buy make-up so I wouldn't walk into work with a red, blotchy face. I managed to fake a smile for the kids at work, get through choir without murdering anyone, and then went home and drank.
Just why? Even if I were pregnant, this was just some random lady in line at Starbucks. Never seen her before in my life, and hope to never see her again. It wouldn't have been any of her business anyway. And as if I'm not insecure enough to begin with! I'm not a confident person. But lately, I've been feeling a bit better about myself. Not that I totally love my body, but I kind of reached a point of "Well, it's not great. But it's mine, and it isn't that bad." And occasionally I even feel kind of pretty. Nope! Apparently it actually is that bad and I've just been fooling myself. It's been a while since I've felt this bad.
But I just don't get why anyone would think that's an okay question to ask. I don't talk to people in line period. But if you need to make small talk for whatever reason, how about the weather? Or whatever song happens to be playing, or some sports team of your choosing? I'm shy and not very social, so I don't much like talking to random people anyway, but at least that way the worst case scenario is some awkwardness and mild irritation.