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I think you should embrace your existential suffering and use it to make good. It is better to care and suffer than not care and be happy all the time in selfishness. I know someone close to me that I do not like as much now as I did before - they used to complain all the time and were emotional but to me also so passionate about things that really mattered. Then this person got on Prozak, and ever since then they don't cry, they say nothing passionate at all, and don't seem to care about anything or any one. They admit taking the medication is like having a total emotional lobotomy and they are glad. I don't get even half the communication or emails any more from this person. It makes me sad and I'd rather people just be themselves unless that becomes so problematic they truly cannot function without a medication. I'm not saying there isn't a place for meds, it just seems to be the easy way out these days. It's a problem from what I can tell. Sometimes people need a med like Prozak just for a time, so they can regain a sense of themselves, calm down, and in that case I support it, but its not always so easy to quit once you get started. The drug companies make it that way.

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I've never been diagnosed with depression, or spoken to anyone in the medical field about it. I don't want to be put on meds or sent to a therapist again, so I've just been coping in my own way for about 7 or 8 years now. My pets do help a lot, without my dogs, I don't know what would have happened to me by now.. Things were a lot worse before I got Titan almost 5 years ago.

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You know, that's cute and all, but uh.. No mating please. I've looked and looked and I don't see a sheath on the new snail, nor on Pearl. I'm 90% sure the new snail is a female, but that 10% of doubt is making me want to keep it in my divided 10g instead of this tank. But both of those males are known for eating Mystery Snail feelers.. I just want to keep them somewhere with duckweed since they seem to like it so much.

The new girl picked up the same habits as Pearl really quickly. Her temporary name is Puff, until I can decide on that or something else. They're sticking together, every time I've looked since adding her, they were within a few inches of each other. It's kinda cute but it's making me worry one of them is actually male. Please don't be a male, Puff..

Worst case scenario, if they make it hard for me to separate them, can just get them a bare 5.5g of their own, get some sand substrate, a few plants, and stick some duckweed in there. No hood, sponge filter, and an unadjustable heater. Seeing them interact like that is really cute. I had another Mystery Snail with Arthur at one point, but they showed no interest in each other, not like these two.

Also, Maru's anal fin uncurled again. I've been doing daily MB/AQ Salt baths, just at half dose. Bacterial infection confirmed? I need to do an 100% water change to get rid of anything in there. I'll do that later today while he's in his bath. Hopefully it doesn't completely ruin my cycle if I don't wash anything.


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I love these snails, they learn really quickly. Every time I feed Meeko, Pearl comes to the spot I usually give her pellets at, with Puff taking about 30 seconds more to notice, but she'll come too. They zoom over, one minute they're at the back of the tank, and the next they're at the top of the front waiting for food.

Meeko takes forever to eat, and I feed him first, so they usually try to eat his instead. Then Meeko looks at them like, "Really...?" and tries to carefully squeeze past Pearl and Puff to get his pellets, trying not to touch their feelers. He usually winds up getting one, then chickening out and looking sad and dejected, and I have to call him over to another spot to get his. Pearl isn't bothered by him trying to eat the food from her, but Puff hides in her shell when he takes one. It's kinda funny but I feel bad for Meeko. He's so passive with these snails, he could easily injure one and get them away from his food, but he tries not to disturb them, even when they're messing with his food.


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I'm glad he gets along well with them. I had an assassin snail, and every tank I have someone picked his feelers off, they'd start to regrow and poof, gone. I imagine a mystery snail would have even more attention!

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He hasn't bitten any feelers off yet. Didn't even nip the very first snail I had in there. I think he'd be community tank safe if I ever have another tank big enough for some other fish that I don't want to divide. I've been lucky so far, out of the 9 males I've had, only two are murderous scum. Roman killed an MTS, and Topaz killed my second Mystery Snail. But Topaz was good in a community tank, so I can't get too mad at him.

In other news, I got Maru a new tank light. He was freaking the **** out. He's calmed down again, guess he got used to it already or tired himself out. I can finally add floating plants! Woo! Gonna pick some up either tomorrow or the day after. In the meantime, I'll keep using the dim light so he doesn't kill himself.


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This update... I don't like it. :s I wish they'd add a way to choose between the two layouts.


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I agree. I liked the simplicity of the old layout.

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It feels too.. Busy. I think that would be the right word. Everything feels too big and bulky to me. And mobile view is an absolute mess, I refuse to use it. Maybe the issues I'm having are because I'm using desktop view on mobile.


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About depression, I don't blame you not wanting to go to a dr about it, I've been down that route, doctors, meds, therapists, the works. UGH, stick to what works, it's hard, I know <3

LOL poor Maru, I'm sure having a bright tank is a little freaky!

I agree about missing the simplicity of the old layout, I miss how much easier that was to navigate. Good to know about the mobile version, I may try it on my phone just to see for myself. I like the idea of getting to choose between the 2.


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Maru's new tank light is awesome. But, they sent it to me with an EU plug, which I can't use for obvious reasons. Luckily, the adapter to the old light fit it, so I can still use it.

I messaged the eBay seller telling them they sent someone in the US an EU plug, and they want to refund me $2. The light cost me $10. Another adapter will cost me $12. Where does that make any sense? They sent me the wrong item and don't want to refund the full amount, when this was in no way shape or form my fault. Avoid the seller kunkunh2009 for any fish supplies.


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