[MadameDesu]

Hey guys,

So as most of you know, I got my fish Rosie about a month ago. "She" was labeled as a female, but as she's started to grow, her fins have been getting longer and I think she is going to turn out to be a he.

For some reason, I'm having a REALLY hard time with this. I mean, when I got her, it was just me and her, two girlfriends living together. I would talk to her like she was a girl and I just saw her as a FEMALE. But now it seems that she has actually decided to become male ... For some reason this upsets me. I love her no matter what and she will always be my first fish friend, but I can't help but feel like the Rosie I bonded with is dying :-(
I'm not really sure what to do right now. Has anyone else had a similar experience with a gender-bending betta? Any advice?
Do I have to rename and bond all over again?

-MadameDesu

 

[tpocicat]

He's still the same fish, the love should be the same with longer fins! He really didn't change into something else after all.

 

[MadameDesu]

I know that, but it's sort of hard to let my aspirations for a cute little girl go.
I wish it would have been more obvious ...

 

[betta lover1507]

does she have a white dot under her belly? if so yes should could be, does her. did you ever put her near a male and she'll have bars that go up and down? beard stick out her gills? a pic with her closer would help
not all females are short finned:

that was my girl's bidding photo, she passed away in a month, and she got beat up by a male for jumping over a divider:

^^^^that was the last pic i got of her
also if she is a male. dosen't mean she is transsexual she was just a very young male. also how long you had her? that would help

 

[BeckyFish97]

Hey guys,

So as most of you know, I got my fish Rosie about a month ago. "She" was labeled as a female, but as she's started to grow, her fins have been getting longer and I think she is going to turn out to be a he.

For some reason, I'm having a REALLY hard time with this. I mean, when I got her, it was just me and her, two girlfriends living together. I would talk to her like she was a girl and I just saw her as a FEMALE. But now it seems that she has actually decided to become male ... For some reason this upsets me. I love her no matter what and she will always be my first fish friend, but I can't help but feel like the Rosie I bonded with is dying :-(
I'm not really sure what to do right now. Has anyone else had a similar experience with a gender-bending betta? Any advice?
Do I have to rename and bond all over again?

-MadameDesu

I've never had a gender-bending betta before but there is one thing I know, renaming?its up to you-maybe just take her name now and revamp it.But bonding again?No, just because rosie might be a boy doesn't change her personality or how much you love her, if you find out that rosie is a he, will her personality change?If you find out rosie is a he, will you love her any less?I don't think so, but I'll tell you one thing, you're not loosing her, you're finding her all over again, I hope I helped

 

[MadameDesu]

She has an egg spot, and her beard doesn't stick out her gills.
But her fins just keep getting longer and longer.

 

[tpocicat]

Might still be a girl then.

 

[MadameDesu]

I've never had a gender-bending betta before but there is one thing I know, renaming?its up to you-maybe just take her name now and revamp it.But bonding again?No, just because rosie might be a boy doesn't change her personality or how much you love her, if you find out that rosie is a he, will her personality change?If you find out rosie is a he, will you love her any less?I don't think so, but I'll tell you one thing, you're not loosing her, you're finding her all over again, I hope I helped

Awww ... that's actually really beautiful.
If she does turn out to be a he, I'll just go with Rosario!
I do love him/her, no matter what! It's just hard to shift mindsets, I guess.

 

[Luimeril]

i had a fry i raised from a month old baby. i called it a he more often than not, because it felt like it'd grow into a boy to me.

then, at 3 months old, i finally found out my little trooper, was a girl. instead of being upset, i was excited! it was a fun twist! you bonded with Rosie. it might help if you kept his name as Rosie(even though it's girlie). really, Rosie's still the same fish, just threw you a twist.

 

[MadameDesu]

How long until their fins are fully grown?

 

[MrVampire181]

Can you post a recent photo? I can determine gender very easily.

 

[MadameDesu]

Here's one that shows the fin length pretty well.
I just took some others, so I'll upload soon.

 

[BeckyFish97]

Awww ... that's actually really beautiful.
If she does turn out to be a he, I'll just go with Rosario!
I do love him/her, no matter what! It's just hard to shift mindsets, I guess.

Actually I just realised I DO (or I did )have a gender bending fish!He/She is a tetra!I didn't think of Him/Her because its hard to tell the difference anyway lol (tetras dont like you to know much about them) He/She is called shadow, I never new He was a she until I took a photo down to the fish shop when she seemed ill, the guy there noticed I was calling her shadow and not too kindly pointed out he was a she, I never really stopped thinking she was a he, because to me she was just my shadow.She died a couple of months back (epidemics suck) (actually saying that so does my memory)

 

[BeckyFish97]

Here's one that shows the fin length pretty well.
I just took some others, so I'll upload soon.

Just seen the picture, if I'm honest to me she looks like one of my female veiltail's sapphire did (also died in my epidemic ) (same sort of length fins) but she looks like she has the spade tail gene?I'm no expert but maybe one of the older members might be able to clarify?

 

[MadameDesu]

Here are some pictures that show a little more detail.

 

[youlovegnats]

It's a female.

=___=; ....

 

[MrVampire181]

Female for sure.

 

[youlovegnats]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0VgnCiuFfA

 

[finnfinnfriend]

She's just an extra glamorous girl ;-)

 

[BeckyFish97]

She's just an extra glamorous girl ;-)

Lol aren't we all