My heart isn't necessarily up to bringing the visibly sick ones home, although I realize some people do try to help them, to your point of trying to give them quality even if they aren't going to get quantity of life.
I have a brick 'n mortar pet store close to me, and they do a pretty decent job of water changes and taking care of all of their fish including the bettas. When I got back into fishkeeping about 5 years ago, I went there and looked for beauty in color and fins and tail. I had a 20 gallon split into half and my boys lived a good life. I was a little dismayed at how the one in particular had such large fins and tail that he was struggling a bit. The next two boys I brought home were crowntails and did much better
Then I set up a slightly smaller tank and returned yet again to the brick 'n mortar, and selected a little girl. The next boy I got was a King, as I'd read they are a little healthier and sturdier regarding being able to handle the challenges of their early life.

I have a brick 'n mortar pet store close to me, and they do a pretty decent job of water changes and taking care of all of their fish including the bettas. When I got back into fishkeeping about 5 years ago, I went there and looked for beauty in color and fins and tail. I had a 20 gallon split into half and my boys lived a good life. I was a little dismayed at how the one in particular had such large fins and tail that he was struggling a bit. The next two boys I brought home were crowntails and did much better
I agree, I'd never put it into words like this but I think you're right. We just lost our cat who we'd had for 13 years, and although my partner was researching into purebreds - again because of a better track record regarding health, we ended up going to an animal shelter and bringing home a wonderful, sweet, funny boy who is at least 7 years old