never mind all, he passed away, i now think i put the temp up for him and it was too warm , that may have led to his death i feel so guilty, he gave me a last look last night like to tell me he was leaving.

 

So sorry to read this, don't beat yourself up, we can only do the best we know how. The temps seem to be on a normal range. it could be that it was just his time. Take care, don't let guilt fog your good memories.

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Its so hard too, his little breathing and the look he gave me last night, its just in mind my mind now, its like i didnt do something right. feel so terrible, its always going to be in my mind now.

 

It is terrible to lose our babies, you will go thru the grieving and there may be a day when you start over. No matter what, our babies love us unconditionally

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Just for future reference, in a 3.5 gallon tank i had the temp set at 82F, when i went a while back at the aquarium store he told me i had the temp way to high and told me to drop it down to 68F, it confused me, was he right? maybe now i made my boy suffer because his water was too warm

 

I think you will see in this forum that those temps up to 80's are ok. I have a 2.5 gal tanks for my betta and they stay at 82-84 on the high end, and have been so without problems. 68 yeah that is way too cold. Take what the employee says with a grain of salt and do your own research. If though have a private fish store owner in your area, better to deal with them, big box stores don't often have good advice.

It will be ok, it takes time to get over any loss of what we hold dear.

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82 degrees is only a degree or two above the normal range, I keep both of my tanks at 80-81, and I know plenty of other forum members do as well. So I have a hard time believing that was the cause of his downturn.

The pet store employee that told you to put it at 68 is insane! That's WAY too cold for a betta, and would have caused even worse problems, I'll bet. Good on you for not listening.

I'm very sorry for your loss sometimes it's just their time, despite our efforts.

 

Thanks nicecrocs, i also thought that it would be too cold, it happened so quick though he was a small betta maybe 6-7 months all up, i still cant come to mind what would of been the issue he had a poop sticking out of him last night so i thought finally the sbd might be getting better, then this morning he was at the bottom not breathing or moving, its so sad, would it be too soon to go look for another betta or would it help me clear my mind about this little boy, such a hard day for me today, that little face was trying to tell me to help him.

 

Really, the only person who can make that decision is you. We all have to grieve in our own way. Some people find they need to take a step back in order to heal, while others find closure through the act of giving another animal a loving home as quick as possible, and everywhere in between. Whichever you decide is the right path for you, is the right decision.

 

Just the face he gave me its like he knew it was his end, oh god , i just cant stop thinking about that.

 

That is the tough part. Take care

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