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Does anyone else get judged for betta love?

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2.4K views 13 replies 10 participants last post by  bella221  
#1 ·
I am at college and my roommate and friends make fun of me for actually taking care of my baby. I told them he was sick so I bought him betta meds and they look at me and say "Oh my God Maddy. It's just a fish just let it die". :evil: Like really? I love Daryl and have an extreme anxiety issue. Daryl helps me through the times of panic and loneliness. And people just laugh and say I am obsessed. :? However he is doing much better now and is swimming happily now. People just do not know how much personality fish can have. Just merpp....
 
#5 ·
Sadly there are a lot of people like that but I'd suspect those same people never truely bond with a pet dog either... I think my parents and inlaws think I'm a bit crazy for my planted Betta tanks but they just smile and say "oh that's nice." And keep it to themselves. My husband appreciates the fish (bettas and other fish we have) and never thought or said "it's just a fish".
 
#10 ·
I get told I'm too obsessed and that I have a problem and get made fun of for having to euthanize one of my bettas last semester due to cancer.

I also get told often to just flush them all, move the tanks home and get new ones. And I mean flush them live. I always refuse but I get it a lot. My entire family thinks I'm insane because they are "just fish" except my little cousin who actually got a betta boy and has been taking really good care of him and she wanted him because I had fish. She actually asked me if she could have my least favorite fish. I couldn't give up any of my boys but we did buy her everything for christmas. Now her little Alex is very happy in a heated 2.5g tank.

I also have gotten crap about tank sizes when a new boy comes along or when one needed to be upgraded. "It's just a fish they can live in small bowls they don't need a lot of space" yeah actually they do.

I've just started replying to it with "They may be 'just a fish' to you but they are a whole lot more to me and I would appreciate it if you would accept that I enjoy keeping bettas and would like them to have proper homes." only to be replied with "In our day we just kept them in bowls without heaters and changed water like once a month and they did just fine. I just internally fume.
 
#12 ·
Well, in their day they didn't have a lot of information, didn't they?

Fish are living things. They need to be taken care of. Every animal is worth the same, no matter how big or small or the amount of years they live to. Dogs and cats are not "superior" to fish- every animal has a soul, and that is what makes them equal.

Heck- if, let's say, your child came down with the flu or something, you wouldn't flush them down the toilet (or throw them into the orphanage, whatever) and adopt another one. You would manually take care of him/her. Same goes for fish. If you say "oh betta fish don't need a lot- they can live in bowls without food and no heater" that's basically saying "oh, children don't need a lot- they can live in dinky bathrooms with no food and no clothes" in my eyes.
 
#13 ·
^^+1 PurpleJay! I feel the same way.
 
#14 ·
I just started buying bettas. I got my first one 3 months ago. Bought my second one last week and a third one today lol I think it's safe to say I'm beginning to be obsessed. I honestly can't help my self. I see these poor guys at the walmart store and I feel so bad for them! I even feel bad when I only pick one. So at this moment I have 3 bettas and one 30 gal tank for other fish.
I so wish bettas could live together peacefully, I would have a 50 gallon tank filled with them. Imagine how beautiful that would be.